Mother doesn't want to invite her sister to a girls' trip as it is for her daughter's volleyball tournament, and she never liked being her aunt: 'I already know how she feels about children, and why would I invite her to a trip that focuses on my kid'

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María Cetra • Writer
Oct 10, 2026 1:15 PM EDT

If you don't want to hang out with one of the people involved in the trip, why bother going in the first place?

Some people love saying they are alone because they have strong boundaries or because nobody is up to their standards, but usually it is because they are so annoying that nobody wants to hang out with them. This doesn't only apply to couples and single people; it also applies to family members. The fact that you have no family member to hang out with may not be an issue with the family; it may just be a you problem. People don't want to spend time with people who criticize them or mistreat them; it doesn't matter if it is a family member or a friend. If you act this horribly, nobody will ever want to invite you to anything. 

In this story, we have a sister who decided to have the worst behavior towards her niece. This is already extremely alarming, as it is a child who is just existing that this aunt is getting bothered by. But then, as if it was not enough, this aunt decided to complain to her sister to also get invited to the trip she's doing with their mom. To be fair, I get her sadness for not having that close of a relationship with her mom and sister; this aunt is alone, but it is all her fault. She decided that her niece is not important to her without any explanation. Which makes me think: why would you want to go on a trip whose sole purpose is to accompany someone you don't like to spend time with? This aunt is creating a mess over nothing just because she is upset that people would prefer a good kid over a childlike adult. Why make a mess over this? Is it just jealousy because they get to spend time together without her? Does she not like the niece just because she's the only one who can act like a child? I don't know, but this aunt's attitude is definitely not okay, and she needs to change it. 

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  • 01
    I (28) and my sister (30) got into an argument and I want to know if I was in the wrong. My sister is big on being child- free. She posts about it online and has made comments about where kids should and shouldn't be. I had my daughter when I was 18 and it was rough. I don't have any regrets and married my highschool sweetheart. My family and I are doing well
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    A woman on a road trip with her hair out of the window. Picture does not depict real parties.
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    A woman on a road trip with her hair out of the window. 

    Picture does not depict real parties. 

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    financially, and I'm currently preg int with my second child. We're very fortunate that I was able to go to college and that my spouse has a good job as well. My sister wasn't helpful at all when our first child was growing up. Her online posts made it seem like I was a huge idiot for having kids, especially during a time when things were really difficult. I used to invite her to things, but she would get
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    upset if I couldn't stay later than we had agreed or if I mentioned doing something where I could bring my daughter. One example hanging out at the park So we grew apart. The issue is that my daughter is doing a volleyball training session over the weekend in a nice city about a state away. I'm going with her, but she'll be busy for most of the day, so the parents
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    have time to wander around and have some fun themselves.. I invited my mom and she and as down for a mini girl trip. The general plan- kid goes to practice, mom and I explore city, kid finishes practice around dinner, we get dinner, and repeat the next day, but we leave after dinner. We are leaving Friday. It is going to be fun. I got a call from my
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    sister asking why she was not invited to the volleyball girls trip. I asked her why would I invite her... She told me since mom is going | should invite her. I told her this is my daughter's volleyball trip and I already know how she feels about children and why would I invite her to a trip that focuses on my kid. She told me this was different since my kid would be gone most of the day.
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    I told her no, The entire reason we were going is because of my daughter. Even if she isn't physically with us every second, this is still her volleyball weekend. And I know how she feels about kids. She said that's not fair and that she is still my daughter's favorite aunt. I told her that she is her only aunt. She called me a and she has went to my mom. My mom seems to be on my side but
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    now she doesn't seem excited for the trips
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    A team playing volleyball together. Still frame for contextual reference only.
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    A team playing volleyball together. 

    Still frame for contextual reference only. 

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    Spectre Omega NTA. You're traveling specifically to support your kid. Asking "why would I" simply pointed out the obvious contradiction of expecting an invite to a child-focused trip after years of openly disdaining children and parenting.
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    Jean Marie_1989 NTA I am child free by choice but I also love children. I take my auntie duties very seriously. It sounds like your sister expects you to do things on her terms and there is no room to compromise. Your sister is actively ruining her relationship with you and your family because of her life choices. I am very much of the mindset that no one should try to force their beliefs on another person or look poorly on other people for their life choices
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    Embarrassed-Wafer701 This!!! I love kids, despite not having them and not ever wanting them, and I love traveling or spending time w my friends when they bring their kids too. Your life choices don't excuse your behaviour.
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    melonea NTA if she doesn't want to hang out with your kid that will limit time with you. I wouldn't want my kid to pick up on any vibe that someone was just waiting for them to be gone. This is about your daughter and it's just a bonus you and your mum get to spend some time together
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    finnreyisreal Like, what does she expect her niece to do once she's back from the sport? Just exist in another room, out of sight and out of mind, until auntie decides to go to bed?
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    Jaded-Analysis-9547 NTA. Just the fact that she said "this will be different since your kid will be gone" shows what kind of person she is. She wants your child to be invisible on a trip centered around her. You're only good enough to be with if your little girl isn't around? Your sister is not a nice person.
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    LavenderGwendolyn INFO: are you staying at the suggested hotel for the volleyball event? Because if you are, it will be packed to the gills with 10-year-olds and their moms. It doesn't sound like a big deal, but they will be everywhere at breakfast and at dinner. That might be something you realize, but your sister does not. It might be worth conveying that to her.
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    TAMeaniePies no wonder she doesn't like kids; she wants to be the only one to act like a petulant child.
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